I do feel like I communicate differently to people for different culture and groups. I feel I communicate in a way that they understand. Such as a work meeting I am going to communicate professionally but with my friends I communicate in a fun way. I also use to work with a agency that had a majority of African Americans. I feel I started talking as they do when I am around them.I also communicate differently to people that I do not know. I treat and talk to them the way I would want to be treated since I do not know them. Another group I talk to differently is my students. I use words they can understand and most of the time it is in a calm positive voice.
I feel you have to talk to different people differently. As I said you are not going to talk to your friends as you would talk in a work meeting. You just have to use your best judgement on how to talk to who.
I felt I communicate the same with every group I have encountered. I do understand the way you stated how you communicate with everyone. I do act professionally when I am with other people but that is the way they act to especially my colleagues. When I am with my children I do communicate in a way that they will understand what I am trying to say but I still feel it would be the way I would communicate with them being the person I am. Yes, I feel we talk to our friends different than we would in a work situation but in the long run we all communicate the same way I think. I respect your responses and you have gotten me to thinking, do I really communicate the same with everyone? Good Post!
ReplyDeleteHi Cheryl,
ReplyDeleteYou said, "I feel you have to talk different people differently." No offense, but what exactly do you mean by that? Clearly, you were in a rush and forgot to add a 'to' in the phrase, "talk to different people differently." However, this is a generalization. Simply "using your best judgement on how to talk to who", in my opinion, isn't a best effort. As we have been learning in our Master's program, there is something beyond the Golden Rule that says, "treat others as you would like to be treated", which only takes into account one's own perspective of the world. Treating others as they would like to be treated implies that there is some work to do on our own part in learning about how others would like to be treated. It means asking questions verses making assumptions or generalizations, using active listening skills, staying open-minded, employing self-reflective skills, being mindful, being flexible, and being tolerant of others without rushing to judgement. In order to use our 'best' judgement, we have to be willing to go deeper, educate ourselves, challenge ourselves to think outside the box, and resist cultural myopia when working with young children and families of diverse culture.
Hi Cheryl,
ReplyDeleteYou said, "I feel you have to talk different people differently." No offense, but what exactly do you mean by that? Clearly, you were in a rush and forgot to add a 'to' in the phrase, "talk to different people differently." However, this is a generalization. Simply "using your best judgement on how to talk to who", in my opinion, isn't a best effort. As we have been learning in our Master's program, there is something beyond the Golden Rule that says, "treat others as you would like to be treated", which only takes into account one's own perspective of the world. Treating others as they would like to be treated implies that there is some work to do on our own part in learning about how others would like to be treated. It means asking questions verses making assumptions or generalizations, using active listening skills, staying open-minded, employing self-reflective skills, being mindful, being flexible, and being tolerant of others without rushing to judgement. In order to use our 'best' judgement, we have to be willing to go deeper, educate ourselves, challenge ourselves to think outside the box, and resist cultural myopia when working with young children and families of diverse culture.